I recently read a friends blog post where she put the following article that she found from the Tulsa World…1969
“Recently a circular portrayed a family of four with beaming faces and each loaded down with bundles of goods purchased at a department store – with this caption: “You get more out of life the American way!” It went on to say, “The American way is to open a credit account – Do it today and you’ll begin to get more out of life…the American way!”
That, of course, is one way. But that is not the whole picture of life. There is love and kindness and poetry and beauty and heroic daring; they too, have meaning. Most people seem to think the primary interests of life are material. “How much did he leave?” we ask when some well-to-do man has died. He left all he had. It is not how much? The question is how true; how good; how beautiful; words which are honest, deeds which are just, purposes which are beautiful; these are the highest satisfactions in life.
You see, satisfaction lies not in having, not even in doing, but in being. Yet the idea of having has gone beyond the wildest dreams, and the idea of being is classed among the lost arts. To get the most out of life the human spirit must be something.
Some of the highest satisfactions in life may be found in creative work. Anyone who has ever entered into creative has found meaning and satisfaction in life for it comes out of work more than from any other thing. All great books, paintings, statues and musical compositions were achieved by those who lost themselves in their labors, and worked primarily for the joy in the work.
Consider the idea of creative sharing: In your day’s work, can you spare a kindly word, a friendly greeting, a wave of the hand? These simple actions have magic in them.
Can the idea by the great Idealist, “If you lose your life, you will gain it,” possibly be true? Some have tried it and have not been disappointed.
And you get more out of life by adventurous living. The reverence of the heroic has not died among us. There are still opportunities for adventurous living. They are not all confined to the exploits of the sea and the fields and the air.
Emotional agitations, resentment and violence are still to be curbed; criminal and lower temptations have never lost their power; hate is as deadly as before. What do you suppose would happen, if we should whole-heartedly give ourselves to truth, beauty, goodness as the one passion of our souls?”
by R.E. Dreger, printed in the Tulsa World February 16, 1969
The thing that made me laugh the first time I read this was when Dreger referred to Jesus as “the great Idealist”. I had never heard it said that way before. I have been told I’m cheesy and corny. I am told my glass half full view of the world and of people is unrealistic. I try to make people think…but more than that I try to make people think about others instead of always thinking about themselves. That is the thing I see less and less every day. People are consumed with themselves and their own pleasure. I’m not going to say that I don’t lose my focus from time to time but I really do my best to keep my perspective right.
Are you one of the ones that has tried the whole, “If you lose your life, you will gain it,” concept? Have you actually spent time trying to make others lives better? Do you spend more time doing things for others during your week than you do watching TV? I’m not even saying it has to always be the poor or people you don’t know that you need to help. How often do you focus on your family and friends? Do you make them dinner or sit down and listen to how their day went? It seems the longer we know someone the less likely we are to take time to try and make them feel special.
There are exceptions. I have seen couples who have been married for 30 years and still make sure to go out of their way to make their spouse feel loved. That is awesome to see, but I don’t see it very often. Also what about all the other people that you come in contact with? You can make your spouse feel loved and appreciated, but that WILL benefit you in the long run. What about going out of your way to help that person at office who doesn’t like you at all? What about putting away that shopping cart that you almost ran into because someone left it in the parking lot? What about giving your waiter a bigger tip than you think they “deserved” based on their service? We all have ways we can go outside of our normal routine and brighten the day for someone who needs it. Smile, hold the door for someone, say thank you and see what kind of response you get.
Live for others. Try it. I’m not the one who made it up. Life will be better.