One Last 2015 Post

2015 is almost over. This was supposed to be the year that I wrote something every day. I bought journals, started writing online again, and then life seemed to get in the way.

I haven’t posted anything on this blog since May. I’m not sure how many people will see this post, but then again that isn’t the main point of this blog. I write to get things off my chest normally.

So much is going on in the world right now and almost everything that is reported is negative. I don’t like to write about negative things. I don’t like to dwell on negative things. In my opinion life is too short to live like that.

This year I was told I look at the world through rose colored glasses. I was told I see everything with rainbows and unicorns. I was told that I am not a realist because I am too opitimistic. I am okay with all of that.

Life should be enjoyed. I want to enjoy my life. I want others to enjoy their lives. I never want to be a person who drags someone else down. I would rather bring you up to seeing that better things are possible and they are attainable.

We live in a hard world. Bad things happen to a lot of people all the time and we feel powerless because a lot of the bad that happens is out of our control.

I choose to try to help others when they are going through tough times. I want to use my resources (no matter how small) to assist others in living their best life. I mean best life as in measured in satisfaction and happiness. I don’t mean measured in money, although having your basic needs met is a general requirement for satisfaction and happiness.

That brings me to what I want out of 2016. I want to help. I want to help more than I did in 2015. I want to get people in touch with help if I am not the person who can help them. That is what I want to do. That is how I stay satisfied and happy. Loving my family and spreading love to those who I can come in contact with. That is my goal and that is my wish for you. Be grateful for what you have been given and spread the love where ever you can.

Humans are sucking right now…but Stephen Colbert is awesome.


I have really wanted to make more posts lately. The problem is that I have been angry about things going on all over the world. I don’t like to write when I’m angry, at least I don’t like to write non-fiction when I’m angry.

The posts come off as me being self-righteous, or at least that is how I feel they would come across to others.

Humans are sucking at this point in our history. I don’t mean this decade, I mean this week, this month, this year.

Here are a few examples of why we are ALL sucking at this point:

We’re chopping each others heads off.

We’re using chemical weapons on other humans.

More chopping off of other peoples heads.

Children are dying of hunger.

Riots in the street over people killing other people.

I could go on, but I will stop now.

It is crazy to see all that is going on in our world right now. I decided that writing about the bad is already done for me. Instead I wanted to at least show one piece of good news.

It is about a rich guy who decided teachers needed some help. So he didn’t start a crowd-funded project. He just paid for his convictions out of his own pocket. That guy is Stephen Colbert. That one article made me smile today. I decided it needed a bit more press.

What makes you happy?


What makes people happy?

This is a question that has been on my mind a lot lately. Would a better job, more money, more friends, more stuff, or more vacation time make you a happier person in general?

A study from San Francisco State University made some headlines recently. The study concluded that you should spend your money on experiences instead of more stuff if you want to be happy. You can read one article about the study here:

So my question to you is what would make you happy? When you got your tax returns (if you got a return this year), did you think about where you wanted to go or what you wanted to buy? Did you think about either one?

A lot of people are so in debt right now that they aren’t worried about buying more stuff or spending money on experiences. They want money to help them climb out of what seems to be a never ending financial hole. Lack of money is one of if not the biggest reason that I hear about when people talk about being unhappy.

At this point in my life I’m by no means rich. I am in a better position financially than some, but I don’t get to travel with my family like I will one day. Regardless of the fact that I am not pulling down the big bucks just yet, I am a happy person most of the time.

I have been told on more than one occasion that I live in a land of unicorns and rainbows. I guess that might be true. I’m a firm believer in the fact that it will all work out in the end for me. I’m very grateful for everyone who has helped me get to where I am today. I know that no matter what it looks like right now, things will be alright.

It seems like in every time I take a look at my Facebook feed there is a new article, book, or a blog post that gives a list of things that are proven to make you happy. There are lots of things that seem to end up on these lists and sometimes I compare one list with another list.

These lists inculde things like doing yoga in the morning, fake it ’til you make it, and getting enough sleep. There does seem to be one thing that is on basically every list for living a happier life. The key to happiness seems to be gratitude.

Gratitude seems so easy and it really is something that everyone can put into practice. It starts with being grateful for the small things. A friend of mine started a gratitude journal online years ago. I don’t know if she still keeps up with it, but I thought it was an awesome idea. My wife and I took time out each night for a while to write down things that we were grateful for from the day. I found that for me personally, it is important to take time out and remember that I have so many reasons to be grateful.

Maybe you don’t think that you have anything to write in a gratitude journal. That could be one of the reasons that you don’t live a life filled with joy. If you seem to be down a lot, take some time out and inspect your life for opportunities to be grateful. It will be time well spent.

Remember that worrying about what may or may not happen will do you no good. All we can do is control what we can control and respond to the things that come our way. Your response will determine if you live a happy life or not.

That is my view on the subject. Everyone is free to have their own view.

Presidential Campaigns = Avoid Social Media

The 2016 Presidential election won’t occur for 573 days. This weekend Hillary Clinton announced that she would be running for President. You can watch the video in case you missed it:

She is the 4th candidate to make the announcement that they will be running in the upcoming election and she won’t be the last. According to this article there are at least 13 more people who are “probably” running.

There will also be a bunch of candidates that no one hears about because they don’t have million dollar Super PAC’s to buy them time on TV.

I will be taking time off from commenting and probably even checking my Facebook feed for most of the year. The reason is not that I don’t want to know what my friends around the world are doing, it is because I don’t want to have to sift through all the negative articles posted about the people that my friends don’t want to see as our next President.

It has just started and yesterday I saw four articles in a row about why I shouldn’t want to see Hillary Clinton in the Whitehouse. What I want people to understand is this: I care more about who you want to see in the Whitehouse than who you don’t want to see.

You are not going to change my mind by posting negative things about a candidate. What will actually make me stop and read an article would be a positive article about the candidate of your choice and what position they take on the issues facing the United States right now.

Maybe other people can be swayed by you posting all of the reasons you don’t like someone who is in the race. I don’t see how that is the most effective way to actually get someone elected. I think it really just makes you look like you are only voting for the candidate of your choice so that the other person will lose. That is not a good reason to vote for anyone. Elections shouldn’t be about picking the lesser of two evils. It should be about picking the person you feel would best represent you and the things you hold to be important when they reach the highest office in the land.

This is probably not my last political post, but it will be the last one where I address my disdain for negative campaigning.

Hello old friend…

old friends It has been a LONG time since I posted anything on here. It isn’t that I forgot I had a blog, I just had other things that took priority.

One thing I have decided over the past couple weeks is that my writing has to be a priority that comes second to my family…and not much else.

I don’t use this blog to post things that I want to publish, this is really just an outlet for my thoughts and somewhere that I can make sure that I continue to write when I’m not working on a book or a story.

What is posted here is always just my opinion and from time to time I write something that others seem to care about as well. My goal is to write several posts a week during the spring and see if that helps me get a book started. I guess time will tell. Hopefully you will enjoy the journey as much as I do as we walk down this road of life together.

Who controls what you think you ‘want’

Want vs. Need is a discussion that could go on forever. I’m not here to tell anyone that they have to only survive with their basic needs being met and anything above that is wrong. What I am going to do is ask you why you desire the things you desire.

Who programs us to want the things that we line up for on Black Friday? What is the driving force behind the items that we make best sellers on

You don’t think you’re a programmed? Really? Take a look in your cupboards and tell me if you know the commercials associated with the products you see.

Look at your wardrobe and tell me what celebrity or tv personality is closest to “your style”….because it is your style right? You haven’t ever seen anything that would make you think it was acceptable to wear what you wear?

What about your car, or the decorations in your house? Where did the inspiration come from for the things that you own?

Companies spend millions on advertising each year to get you to own the idea of choice. You feel that you are the one in control because you went to Arby’s instead of McDonald’s.

We are constantly told what will make us happy. We are shown pictures of people who are generally better looking than us, by the standards of society, enjoying things that now we want. We didn’t know that those products would bring us such joy. Now that we do, we must have them so we can fill our lives with that joy.

The problem with this is not the products. It is with the illusion that those things will bring you joy.

Joy is not gained by things, it is experienced by enjoying time with family and friends.

This is obvious by the amount of suicides and overdoses in Hollywood. Powerful, famous, beautiful people decide that life is not worth living. We can’t understand it. People say, “If I had what they had, I would be so happy!” That is the illusion.

Basic needs have to be met in order to enjoy life…and keep on living. Beyond that it comes down to attitude and companions.

So what do we do about this illusion problem? How do we combat the barrage of images tell us what we must have to be happy? Those are the questions I want you to answer. We can’t move forward as a society unless we acknowledge that something is wrong. Once we acknowledge the problem, we have to work together to come up with the solution.

If you don’t think that you have a problem, then carry on. If what I said makes sense and you want to adjust the world around you, sit down and talk with your friends. Solutions come from community.

What is it all about?

My question to you today is simple:

What is it all about?

We go to work, usually doing something we don’t really enjoy, so we can have money to buy stuff that is supposed to make us enjoy our time away from work.

I understand that we have to eat, we need somewhere to live, and we need clothes of some kind. I get that…but why are we not helping each other fulfill our basic needs so we can all go out and do the things we love.

Lately I have met a lot of people who didn’t have anyone encourage them to follow after what they loved doing. Instead they were told to play it safe and fit into the mold.

The mold for a life today seems to be broken. There are over five times as many vacant homes as we have homeless people (who number the same amount of people as live in Los Angeles btw). That seems wrong.

The only city I have heard about that is addressing this issue is Salt Lake City. They looked at the bottom line and saw it cost more to have people on the street than it would to house them and assign a case worker. They are working to get the homeless people back on their feet.

Think about what would happen if we did something like that all over the country. Not to save money, but because people matter more than the bottom line.

How would it change the world if we gave away the 40% of food that goes to waste every day in the US?

What would your community look like if we reached out to the parents of young children and helped them on a daily basis with their kids instead of having to work an extra job to send them to daycare to be raised by teachers?

How would the landscape of job market change if children were encouraged to study what they loved and they were mentored by people who are already doing those jobs?

I believe that we all care about others. I believe that we all want a better future. I think we are getting to a point in time where a change is coming. I want to help. Let’s do it together.