What are you…and why?

Well I just deleted a post I have been working on for a couple of days. I decided that it sounded too much like I thought I was better than other people, and that is just not the case.

I have a couple of questions for you…those few who will read this post. What are you in terms of your belief system? When you meet someone do you say,

A-ChristianIf you would say that you’re a Christian, what does that mean to you? How does that change how you live?

If you aren’t a Christian, what do you think of those who say that they are Christians? What is your general opinion of people who profess to live in line with the teachings of Jesus Christ?

I don’t know if anyone will respond to this, but I’m hoping to see what some different people have to say about this subject. I think there are a lot of misconceptions out there about being a Christian. I am just curious to see what my friends and those who stumble upon this post will say.

Thanks for your feedback.

Jars of Clay (Dan Haseltine) and Pedro the Lion (David Bazan) leave the Evangelical Church behind…what is going on?

It has been almost a month since my friend Ryan Byrd wrote a blog post about Dan Haseltine and Jars of Clay leaving the evangelical church behind. I saw that he had posted it and I wanted to read it, but I got caught up with my own life and all that was going on there. For those of you who don’t know there were two big events that happened in the two weeks before his post. The first was that I got married on the 25th of August and the second was that 5 days before Ryan wrote his post my office burned up in a fire. Needless to say I was a bit slow in getting everything back on track.

Between his writing the post and me reading it I was able to go to the David Bazan concert at Eikon (thank you once again Ryan). If you don’t know who that is, he was known to the Christian community as Pedro the Lion until he left the evangelical church and Christianity behind. This was not a normal ‘concert’ for me. It was a small setting with less than 50 people in the room. Bazan was playing a bass guitar like it was an electric guitar, complete with capo and pick. His bass player was playing electric guitar during the show. It was just the two of them with their guitars and mics.

About every third song David Bazan would ask if anyone had any questions. There was a group of guys sitting on the floor right in front of him. One of them had several questions, but the one that caught my attention was when he asked him what was up with him? What had really happened with him leaving Christianity and had he really broken up with God like people said after his breakup album. Had ‘Curse Your Branches’ really been about him breaking up with God? Bazan responded more candidly than I ever expected someone in his position to respond with. He was honest and open about the fact that he had come to a point in his life where he had to search out some answers. He had taken things for granted that he had been told his whole life, but he fully expected to find in the end that everyone had been right and it was all true. According to him, that is not what he found. He found that he couldn’t get the answers he was looking for and had to be honest with himself and walk away from what he had been taught.

I am not quoting him word for word and if you really want to know what Bazan thinks you just need to read the lyrics to his music. He is amazingly talented and has a lot of influence on a lot of people. That same thing can be said for Dan Haseltine of Jars of Clay. The journey he is on seems to be a bit different from Bazan’s, but it is headed in a similar direction. He is leaving the evangelical church behind and is making music about real life experience.

Dan Haseltine wrote a blog post called An Unfinished Record; An Uncharted Path that you can read if you want to read. From what it sounds like, he had a similar upbringing to my own. He went to youth group, wore the Jesus t-shirt, and lived all that goes along with that. Somewhere along his path things changed and he had this to say:

“God gave us a story, and a space to fill. And it isn’t really in the same neighborhood as the evangelical church. And so our music will be disappointing to many. People will inevitably engage us with the question, “Are you going secular?” or, “Why don’t you sing about Jesus?” or, “How come you don’t share the gospel?” And some of those people will be angry. Some of them won’t have the tools necessary to understand that anger, or the fear that creates it. Some people will see our form of artistic expression as a threat. Some will categorize us as “back-sliders.“ I wish I had more patience and time for those people.”

His music is taking a turn that leave the evangelical church behind. Now I don’t know about you, but Jars of Clay has been one of those bands that has always been around in ‘Christian music’. They have songs that I know and hear even if it is not something I knew was their song. People remake their songs and worship leaders sing them in youth groups across the country. Now they won’t be singing about Jesus…or at least not in the way that most people expect them to be singing about Jesus. So what does that mean? How do men like this just drift away from the church? How do they begin to see the church as something that is no longer answering the questions that they have in life?

In another part of that same blog post Dan says this:

“These songs are honest expressions of what life around us looks like. The descriptions of love and pain, loneliness and hope are real to us. It is what frustrates me about the general church audience. If artistic expressions do not have an evangelical agenda, or they don’t explicitly cheer for Jesus, they tend to fail commercially. In my experience, the music with those kinds of agendas is shallow and somehow not ultimately believable to me.”

This is one of the things that I have heard from people who are not associated with the church and even from some in the church. They don’t think that what we call ‘Christian music’ and what we now call the church are honest expressions of what life around us looks like. They say Christians are out of touch. Is that what is happening? Are we losing the pulse of people? Are we missing the mark or is this just a blip on the radar? I have been reading some books that lead me to believe that we are losing more people both in the church and outside the church than a lot of us are willing to admit.

 

To say that there is nothing good coming out of the church today would not be accurate. There are a lot of hurting people being helped in a lot of areas. There are also a lot of people doing things that ultimately hurt other people. I think one of the problems that we run into is that people try so hard to act like they are perfect so they can be in the right ‘position’ to help others that they ultimately lose sight of what is really important. People are what is important. Jesus said we were to love God and love our neighbor as ourself. He didn’t say we had to love our church and those in our church while not worrying about what is going on outside the walls of our churches.

So I would say that we have some things we need to work on, that I think we can all agree on. My question is simply what is it that is driving away so many people who are looking for answers? Now I know that a lot of you who will read this are not Christians, but you all know that I am a Christian. I want answers, but I want it to be civil. I don’t need people bashing the church or Christians specifically or in general. I want to know what you think about Bazan and Haseltine walking away from God and the evangelical church (depending on which one you are talking about.) I want to know what you think is causing the exodus.

No one laughs at God in a hospital, no one laughs at God in a war…

My brother made a CD called “Girl Power” and it was (surprise, surprise) all women singing. I had heard it once or twice before, but yesterday my fiance replaced my Johnny Cash CD with the “Girl Power” CD for the ride back to her apartment. This morning on my way to work a song came on that caught me off guard and made me stop and think. It is called, “Laughing With” by Regina Spektor. Here is the music video:

It is easy to dismiss God sometimes as we go on through our busy lives. Then there are those times when our world comes crashing down and who do we turn to? Her perspective seems pretty good to me. Some of her lines were pretty powerful. I will leave you with just a couple of those lines:

God could be funny
When told he’ll give you money if you just pray the right way
And when presented like a genie who does magic like Houdini
Or grants wishes like Jiminy Cricket and Santa Claus
God can be so hilarious

No one laughs at God in a hospital
No one laughs at God in a war
No one’s laughing at God
When they’ve lost all they’ve got and they don’t know what for

There are those around you who are NOT laughing at God, they are going through something bigger than they know how to handle. Reach out to the hurting. Do what you can, when you can. We all have so much to give, even if it is just a kind word or a smile. You can change a life.

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Redemptive Violence…what do you think?

I stumbled across a story that caught my attention yesterday. It was titled: “The Myth of Redemptive Violence

The reason this article caught my attention is two-fold. The first part is that I have asked questions about violence, war, capital punishment…etc. and to this point I have received very few answers that seems to fit my world view. My world view is obviously a mixture of my faith in Jesus and my life experiences. Those two together make for a world view that seems to rub some people the wrong way.

The second reason this article caught my attention was obviously the Aurora shooting. There is a lot being said about guns, gun control, violence and things like that in the days that have followed that senseless murder spree. I have read some stories about people who saved lives by laying down their own lives and I have heard other stories of courage under fire. Then there are those that are talking about the man on trial for the murders. I heard this shooting instantly turned into a political tool for both sides of the aisle. I read that it was a government conspiracy and I heard that it was a U.N. conspiracy. There is a lot of talk about what should and shouldn’t be happening when it comes to guns.

What I want you to do is to take a look at the article yourself and give me your opinion. Here is a part that stood out to me:

“…even in the face the evil that Jesus endured, he consistently challenged the myth of redemptive violence. He looked into the eyes of those killing him and called on God to forgive them. He loved his enemies and taught his disciples to do the same. He often said things like, “You’ve heard it said ‘an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth‘… but I want to say there is a better way” and “You’ve heard it said, ‘love your friends and hate your enemies’ … but I tell you love those who hate you … do not repay evil with evil.'” He challenges the prevailing logic of his day, and of ours. He insisted that if we “pick up the sword we will die by the sword” — and we’ve learned that lesson all too well.”

 

If we are to love our neighbor as ourself and we are supposed to repay evil with good then how do we defend the current response to “evil” in the world? Where is the balance between saving lives (ending things like the holocaust) and starting a war that we have no business being involved in? Is there such a thing as “redemptive violence” or is it a myth as this article would suggest? I leave that for you to consider.

‘The grass is always greener’ and other lies we believe

A few years ago I was walking through the airport on my way to my gate and I stopped at the gift shop. I usually bring a book to read but this time I didn’t so I walked up to the book section. I found one that immediately grabbed my attention. It was about a concept that I had never really thought about. What if we really did get all the things we wanted when we wanted them? Would that make us happy? The conclusion the writer came up with was no. The joy we find in life is from the things we go through every day that we didn’t think we were going to go through. I was going to buy the book, but it was a hardback copy and it was over priced (as everything is at the airport) so I just told myself I would buy it when I got home. I didn’t buy it. I have been looking for it ever since. The problem is that I don’t remember the name!

The reason I am bringing this story up right now is because of a discussion I had yesterday. On twitter a question was posed: “When I get what I want, will I want what I’ve got?”

My response to that was, “No. People want what they don’t have, the hunt is where the thrill exists.” I guess the problem with this is that I was not talking about myself, I was talking about people in general.

It made me stop and take a look at myself. Do I think that the grass is really greener on the other side of the fence? Am I only interested in the “hunt” and not on actually getting what I say I want. The conclusion I came to is sometimes. It freaked me out to think that I might be part of the group that is more interested in chasing things than in actually getting what I want, so I decided do some soul searching and some research.

According to everything I could find online it takes an income of $75,000 per year right now to be happy. I found multiple articles and studies that said this was the magic number and here is one of the articles: “How Much Money Makes You Happy?”

I don’t make $75,000 per year currently. At no point in my life have I made $75,000 per year up to this point. I am a happy guy. I really am happy. One of the things I found out in my research is that people stress about money a lot! I have seen that in the lives of friends and family. I am not really one to stress about money. I don’t need stuff. There is no bigger, better, nicer thing that I am saving my money to get. I am not running up credit cards so I can out-do my neighbors. That is just not who I am. I’m not saying that I am somehow the only person who is not materialistic and consumed with stuff. I know a lot of people who are less worried with what they have than they are in how much they can help someone else.

This all made me realize a few things. First off, there are a lot of people consumed with themselves and their own stuff. If the research that was done is correct than wow…we are really all about things in America today. I guess I knew that, but hadn’t thought about it in a while.

Another thing it made me realize is that there is so much more in life than just me and my stuff. When we get our eyes off of us and onto how we can make a difference we can change lives. There are people who change lives every day. People who do a lot more than me…and probably more than you too. I’m not trying to make anyone feel guilty for having stuff. If you make over $75,000 then that is awesome for you!

My only question is will you help someone else or will you keep it just for you and yours? I find that helping people with what I have been given is way more rewarding and brings me more happiness than spending it on myself. I know I can’t be alone in that.

I know a guy who gives more than he takes. You may or may not agree with everything he says or exactly how he does what he does…but he helps people that others ignore. Take a second and consider helping him help others. If not him, find someone or something you believe in and make a difference. We can change the world for the better. We just have to get our eyes off of ourselves.

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“Every man makes his own Summer.” 3 reasons why I’m happy and a lot of people aren’t.

“Every man makes his own summer. The season has no character of its own, unless one is a farmer with a professional concern for the weather. Circumstances have not allowed me to make a good summer for myself this year…My summer has been overcast by my own heaviness of spirit. I have not had any adventures, and adventures are what make a summer.”
Robertson Davies, “Three Worlds, Three Summers,” The Enthusiasms of Robertson Davies     

I really like this quote because it puts the responsibility back on you to make your life worth living. In this post I am going to write a decent amount about myself, some of my experiences and I will cite my opinions. The reason for this is simply that I know I am telling me the truth. Most people don’t tell you the truth when it comes to how happy they really are at any given time. The average person lies 4 times a day and the most common lie is “I’m fine.”

That being the case I will just be able to tell you what I know about my own happiness. I am a generally happy person. I have been told in the past couple years buy multiple people that I am extremely cheesy! I say things that are on my mind. Often people will make you smile when you think about them or something to that affect and you won’t tell anyone. I normally try to tell that person. I let them know that I am thinking about them, I think they are great or they made me smile. Compliments shouldn’t all be saved up for someones funeral. That is my opinion, so I say stuff that might sound a bit on the cheesy side from time to time. The thing about it is that I truly am happy. I am happy to have the friends and family I have. I am happy with my job. I am happy with my choice of vocation. I am happy with my world view. I am happy I am able to help the people that I am able to help.  I am blessed beyond anything that I could possibly deserve.

One reason this makes me happy when so many people are miserable is that I recognize that I did almost NOTHING to deserve the things I have in my life. I didn’t pick the family I was born into. I didn’t create myself with the skills that I have. I also didn’t really make my personality. So that means that I am a product of what God gave me mixed with the experiences I have been through. I know I make choices but so much of what we have was neither earned or deserved.

The second reason I am happy and so many people are not is that I live a life that fits into what I think is right. I have a set of core values that I am always developing and refining. I live by those core values. I said the other day, “If you live a life that goes against YOUR core values you will be empty and ultimately unhappy. Be honest with yourself at least.”  Now I had a friend tell me he lives a life that fits his core values and he is unhappy…and who am I to say he is not telling the truth? I again can only go by my own experience. I am not the same person I was when I was 15, 20 or even 25. My views of the world, of God, of society and of myself have all changed. One thing that has remained the same is that I have always lived a life that fit into what I feel is right. I’m not perfect, I make mistakes and I have made a LOT of poor choices but for the most part I am happy with the life I live because I am the same guy when I’m around you or around someone else.

The third reason I am happy most of the time is that I am truly grateful for what I have. If I never make more money than I do right now, that is alright with me. If I never live in a bigger house, that is fine. I know that I am better off than most of the world and I try to give as much back to people who are in need as I can. I’m not sold on the “American dream.” I know that if I had more money I would be able to do more for people. The problem I see is that people who make more money get more stuff. They don’t normally stay living the way they were living before, the upgrade. When they upgrade they have less to help people with. I KNOW you all have examples of people who are very wealthy that are helping a lot of people. I have just seen it so many times where the people who don’t have very much were the ones that stepped up when people were in need. People that could have easily written a check and fixed the entire situation stood back and did nothing. So I am happy with the level of life I live on to a certain extent. I would actually be ok with less if that meant I was able to help more people. I am not tied to any possession that I have. If you need it more than me, you can have it. You don’t believe me? Test me. Your level of happiness is tied to your level of gratitude.

So I’m happy because: 1. I didn’t make my awesome life, it was a gift. 2. I live a life that fits my values. 3. I’m truly grateful for all I have.

 

 

Want to frustrate your employees? Here is how!

Michael S. Hyatt, Thomas Nelson, Inc.

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13 Easy Steps to Frustrating Your Employees according to Michael Hyatt:

(Michael Hyatt is the chairman of Thomas Nelson Publishers, the largest Christian publishing company in the world and the 7th largest trade book publishing company in the U.S.)

1. Don’t Be Responsive

2. Cancel Meetings at the Last Minute

3. Reprimand Them in Front of Their Peers

4. Change Your Mind Frequently

5. Don’t Bother Stating Your Expectations

6. Always Ask for What They Don’t Have With Them

7. Focus on Superficial Things Rather Than Substance

8. Assign Them Work, Then Micromanage the Process

9. Do All the Talking

10. Never Recognize Your People

11. Catch Them Doing Something Wrong

12. Communicate That YOU are the Fount of All Wisdom

13. Be Moody

Here is the link to the entire article (he explains each point):

http://michaelhyatt.com/thirteen-ways-to-frustrate-your-employees.html

As I was reading this list I started to think about how I can improve what I do. Most of my interactions where I am the supervisor are with volunteers, not employees. So as someone who needs to manage people who are doing what they do because they want to help, how can this list help me? I went through each point and these points are actually just as important if not more important when working with volunteers!

What do you think about this list? Does it make sense and is it applicable to what you do?

 

Happy…in the middle of the storm…

The past couple weeks have been nothing if not intense. From the thousands who died in the earthquake in Japan, the hundreds who died in the tornados that swept through the south, to more personal things (which I will not go into right now) it has been a wild ride. I thought it had to be the final straw when my car decided yesterday that it no longer wanted to start, I was wrong.

I found out today about a death in my family that makes all of the other things fade slightly. You may think you have compassion for the people who are hurting around the world, all those who lost family members, friends and co-workers. The truth is simply that you are not hurting like they are hurting…and neither was I. My world seems to be cracking and crumbling…and then I stop and take a step back.

Yes, terrible things have happened to people I love. That is a fact. Another fact is that I still have a lot of people in my life that I love and that love me. I still am healthy. I still have an income. When we were younger people always said to count your blessings. Well it is not easy when some of the things that were listed are now gone. The thing I have to look at is that I still have a list. A lot of people don’t.

How can I be happy, how can I be at peace when all this is going on? I have still got a God who loves me. I still am blessed more than I deserve. I can and will grieve. I still have moments where I lose sight of the end of the story. The thing about it is that I always try to keep looking at the big picture. There is more to this life than what happens today. I’m not going to ignore what is happening, I just need to remember to look at the good with the bad. I hope you do the same.